“I can’t deny the fact, you like me. Right now, you like me,” were the words Sally Field gleefully spoke in 1985 when she won the Oscar for Places in the Heart.
It is really quite easy to get someone to say I love you. Hallmark, American Greetings, 1-800-Flowers.com all make that statement very simple to say and deliver. But when you think about it, really think about it, you have to wonder; why was Sally Field’s statement so powerful, so moving?
Hearing “I like you” by someone is a special, committed response that is hardly ever spoken. When it is, the recipient wonders, why? When you hear it, it means something. When you don’t, it means something too.
When a person speaks those words, similar in sound and beat to I love you, they immediately penetrate the heart. They cut through pain, and self-criticism. They carve a path to acceptance and worth. They have influence.
The reason is clear. It is hard to like another human being. We are a difficult creation. God made us that way and for good reason, but it makes for a multitude of issues when it comes to relationships and this “like” factor.
We are the product of two people. Some traits we inherit and some we learn from our environment. Others we choose. It is usually the ones we learn from our culture and those we choose that create the most abrasion in relationships and therefore affect whether or not we receive a “like” from others. Others may not accept the choices we have made in our lives. We may not like them either, but they are ours and we cling to them because they are familiar and safe. We love to feel safe.
Tomorrow, The Power of Like -Part Two. “How hard is it to say?”