It Just Takes Me


Like me? Great if you do, not a worry if you don’t. I found that the most important voice is inside of me. I decide if I am worthy, acceptable and OK. The others outside of me decide only for themselves. There may be a time when the urge inside of them prompts them to tell me a word of advice. That’s ok. But, I decide what is the significance of those words.

Many of us have significant others in our lives. We all had parents and they were significant others first. Not to rag on parents, but, they were learning when they raised us. We were learning when we raised our kids too. As they were learning, they made mistakes. We got sidetracked by some of those mistakes.

Here is what I found. I know myself well. I know what the good parts are and I have notions about what isn’t great. Some of the things I have thought about myself that I deemed not so good, I have discovered are just unique things. Special things. Different things than others around me.  I discovered everybody has these too. Unique is good. Different is good. We can enjoy each other’s differences and allow theirs to enhance ours.

If that is happening to me, it is happening to you too. Maybe what you see as a flaw, is really a blessing to someone else. Maybe there is someone who sees you as unique and as a special person. I am pretty sure that is true. If it is not the person you want to see that, accept that it is still true about you.

It just takes me. Myself, accepting me for who I am, how I look, what I know, what I do and how I sound when I speak.

By Circe

 

Word Play Fun

I love words.  I have often kept on reading the dictionary even after I found the definition of a word or how it’s spelled.  That is one reason for sending you the following posting.  The other reason is that I thought it was very clever.

FUN WORD PLAY (Hey, we all need a smile every now and then):
I have been in many places, but I’ve never been in Cahoots. Apparently, you can’t go alone. You have to be in Cahoots with someone.

I’ve also never been in Cognito. I hear no one recognizes you there.

I have, however, been in Sane. They don’t have an airport; you have to be driven there. I have made several trips there, thanks to my friends, family and work. I live close so it’s a short drive.

I would like to go to Conclusions, but you have to jump, and I’m not too much on physical activity anymore.

I have also been in Doubt. That is a sad place to go and I try not to visit there too often.

I’ve been in Flexible, but only when it was very important to stand firm.

Sometimes I’m in Capable, and I go there more often as I’m getting older.

One of my favorite places to be is in Suspense. It really gets the adrenaline flowing and pumps up the old heart. At my age I need all the stimuli I can get.

And, sometimes I think I am in Vincible; but life shows me I am not.

People keep telling me I’m in Denial but I’m positive I’ve never been there before.

I have been in Deepshit many times; the older I get, the easier it is to get there.

So far, I haven’t been in Continent, but my travel agent says I’ll be going soon.

By Will Sherwood from “Tidbits of Santa Clarita Valley”

A BIT OF NAUGHTY HISTORY

This is something I never knew and now that I know it I think you should, too.  It’s the history of the middle finger salute.   Read on.

Before the Battle of Agincourt in 1415, the French, anticipating victory over the English, proposed to cut off the middle finger of all captured English soldiers.  Without the middle finger it would be impossible to draw the renowned English longbow and therefore they would be incapable of fighting in the future.  This famous English longbow was made of the native English Yew tree, and the act of drawing the longbow was known as “plucking the yew” (or “pluck yew”).  (Are you laughing yet?)  Much to the bewilderment of the French, the English won a major upset and began mocking the French by waving their middle fingers at the defeated French, saying, “See, we can still pluck yew!”

Since ‘pluck yew’ is rather difficult to say, the difficult consonant cluster at the beginning has gradually changed to a labiodentals fricative F and thus the words are often used in conjunction with the one-finger-salute!  It is also because of the pheasant feathers on the arrows used with the longbow that the symbolic gesture is known as “giving the bird.”

And yew thought yew knew every plucking thing.

The Power of I Like You, Part Two, by Circe Denyer

How hard is it to say I like you? Harder than you think. It is because the words must be honest. You cannot say them and not mean those like you can with ‘I love you’. The person you say them to will expect to be told why this is true. They cannot stand alone. They must be backed up with the explanation why. They must mean something about the person they are told to. They have value because of what they mean.

Try it. Stand in front of the mirror. Tell the person you see there, “I like you”. Immediately you should hear something inside you saying, what do you like? OR some other truth.

Now, think about your own interaction with the people closest to you. Have you ever said these words to them? Have you ever heard them said to you?

Now, imagine someone significant saying those words in a meaningful tone to you. Do you feel the power, the significance of them?

For me, I wish these words were spoken more often, with sincerity and truth between friends and lovers. I wish the people who know them would share. I wish those who need them would receive.

Are you ever at a loss for words?

Have you ever agonized about what to say for a special message to someone?  Well, I have the answer.  It’s in a book I found a while ago and it has choice words, phrases, sentences & paragraphs for every situation.  It gives examples for apologies, appreciation, complaints, disagreement, get well letters, refusals, (we could all use that once in a while,) and many, many others.  The author of this extraordinary book is Rosalie Maggio and was published in 1990 but the advice is timely and appropriate.

 

If you are at a loss for words, email me at mdenyer@dslextreme.com and I will send you an example, or more, that you can use.   Ms. Maggio has an answer for everything, including “How to say it, What not to say”, tips on writing, phrases, words, even special situations.

 

I love this book.  I wish I had had it a long time ago.